We all feel that it is very difficult to get rid of any addiction, but it is not true, you just have to commit that yes I will not go after this thing now, just let your path be strong.
So today I will tell you some such truths that you will feel that you too can leave addiction, it will only be an example of how people have left this habit and how they are feeling now,
So because of that, you can also think that how important is for you,
So let’s get started with true examples,
And these are all different examples from a different person, so whenever a sentence started with the * mark, so take a different person’s example,
*I can say with absolute certainty that the fantasies I had about rape, homicide, and submission were never there before hardcore po*n use from 18-22.
When I stayed away from po*n for 5 months all those fantasies and urges were gone. My natural sexual taste was vanilla again and still is.
The thing with po*n is you need harder and harder material, more taboo, more exciting, and ‘wrong’ to be able to get off.
* I never thought that I’d be able to have normal sex.
I always thought that my brain was just hard-wired to only be turned on by my femdom fetish [female-domination po*n that humiliates men], similar to the way a gay guy can only be turned on by cock and cannot appreciate sex with a woman.
Little did I know that the fetish I thought was hard-wired, was simply the result of my po*n-viewing habits. It was a hell of my own making.
After 3 months of no po*n, my latest sexual encounter has removed any doubt about the effectiveness of quitting.
* I’m a 23-year-old male in good physical condition. I started high-speed po*n at 15, quickly escalating from normal po*n to bukkake po*n [repeated ejaculation on a female by many men], transgender po*n, femdom po*n, incest, etc.
I didn’t realize how much I was hurting myself until I lost my virginity at 20 and had problems achieving and maintaining an erection.
It seriously hurt my self-confidence and made me fearful of sex. Similar results with other women. I kept increasing the frequency and length of po*n sessions and escalating to more disturbing fetishes.
After a year, I tried to have sex with an attractive girl. I couldn’t perform. I spiraled down a hole of despair. I started watching sissy Hypno po*n, and occasionally anal masturbation.
I thought I might have turned gay, but gay po*n never did it for me. I found NoFap and quit.
After a few relapses, I made my 90-day mark. I have lost my cravings for all po*n, especially extreme po*n.
At 87 days, I had my first date in ages.
At 96 days, my first BJ [fellatio] since quitting. No problems at all, which is amazing because I used to get bored during BJs and lose my erection.
And at 113 days, I had sex and performed better than ever, with a rock-hard erection the whole time. I feel like I’ve been given a second chance at life.
* As any po*n junkie knows, the more po*n you watch, the more you need, and the more hardcore po*n you need to feel fully aroused.
At my worst, I was dabbling in bestiality, frequent incest scenes, or other hardcore po*n. Actual vaginal sex was never too arousing for me.
Oral or other types of non-vaginal sex were way more appealing.
They made the woman just a pleasure-giving object. After months of ‘mental detox’, if you will, and multiple real-life partners, I’ve lost my fixation on alternative types of sex.
I’m actually attracted to vaginas now. Sounds funny, doesn’t it? I still enjoy other types of sex on occasion, but the intimacy of being inside of a woman is second-to-none.
Seriously, it’s way, way sexier now. This is obviously a win-win in real life. And my urge to watch po*n went from a constant roar to an occasional whimper.
This is not an exaggeration.
*When I got internet back in my late teens I found many YouTube-like po*n sites that categorized content by fetishes.
At first, my tastes were those of a normal teenage boy, but over the years my tastes shifted into aggressive content.
Violent themes against women to be more specific, especially those anime/hentai videos with scenarios too vile to portray in real life.
Eventually, I got bored of that stuff, and in my 20s found new stuff.
Within a year I had acquired many new fetishes, each changing within a shorter time frame than the one before it.
I’m experimenting with quitting because my tastes are now making me really uncomfortable. They conflict with my sexuality.
*In the beginning it was just po*n stars. But as the years slipped by gonzo simply wouldn’t do it anymore. I added a collection for softcore first.
The girls that I liked when I was 18-19 were interesting again.
And then they weren’t. So I added a collection for the new softcore.
Then Hentai. Then Dancers. Then KINK /BDSM. Then spanking/caning. Then Futa / Shemales.
Then finally recently, although I never added a collection for it, I actually looked at gay po*n. Not because I found it arousing; I don’t. I’m not attracted to men.
I looked at it because I was bored. It was like, here I am, 28, and I’ve seen all the po*n on the internet essentially, so I might as well look at gay po*n.
I think that was the moment the seed was planted in my brain that said to me ‘This is seriously f–ked, you need to stop this. Of course, I didn’t then.
*(Day 125) I am in a long-term relationship, and I can vouch for the fact that quitting helped our sex life. A lot.
I had no ED or PE or any other kind of sex-related problems, but compared to what we have now, our sex life, while I was fapping, was …. dull.
Now it is anything but dull, and both of us have stronger libidos than before. I am not exactly sure how – or if – my quitting affected her libido, but she sure is much more interested in sex now :).
*Before realizing that po*n was the problem, I used to think I needed to get healthier fantasies.
Now, almost 8 months after quitting po*n, I’m finding that the fantasies I used to have don’t appeal to me anymore…at all.
What I found is that my wife and I both enjoy sex much, much more when there is no fantasy involved; just the two of us at the moment.
I’m now able to make love to her without erectile issues, face-to-face with eye contact.
Social life:
*Now that I look back at my life there has ALWAYS been a connection between po*n consumption, masturbation, and my social anxiety.
Before po*n, I had a lot of friends, and a couple of girlfriends, and I felt like I was on top of the world. There was nothing that could bring me down.
I felt like I had my own way to react to everything that could happen.
Then I got a new computer… After a year or two, I found myself in REALLY deep social anxiety, combined with too much pot and nothing interesting to do with my life.
*I’m not your generic self-diagnosed socially awkward penguin.
I’ve been to a psychiatrist, diagnosed with moderate to severe social anxiety, and was put on medication.
I know about the adrenaline rush you get when a stranger gets near you, the almost heart attack you feel when you try to talk during a class or a meeting (as if you ever do),
the long lonely walks you take not to deal with strangers, the unfounded shame when you look another person in the eye, the huge wall you put between strangers.
Sweating, trembling, panic attacks, self-hate, suicidal impulses, I’ve been through it all.
I’ve been attempting to quit for two years now and this is the longest I’ve abstained. I no longer experience the ‘torture’ I described above.
No, I’m not a new person, not a social butterfly.
I’m still myself but I’m free of the shackles we call social phobia.
In these past two years, I’ve made more connections, hit on more women, and made more friends than I did in my first 25 years.
I feel content and comfortable in my own skin, and the wall I put between myself and other people has crumbled.
* Social interaction. I was completely afraid of it and incapable of it 50 days ago.
In the past week or so, I have interacted incredibly smoothly and effortlessly with people with whom I would have been unable to interact while using.
I used to be unable to look people in the eyes. I used to purposefully hide from people I knew in public to avoid an awkward conversation.
I wasn’t able to be invested in the conversation.
Women, even those I knew personally, would intimidate me. I would fantasize throughout the day about being able to interact like a normal human… All of this is now changing before my eyes most drastically.
I can interact with confidence; be myself.
I can hold an unbreakable gaze into other people’s eyes. I am actually part of the conversation, as opposed to being aloof and thinking about leaving it.
* New people I meet tell me they like my confidence and they think I’m a good speaker, compliments I would’ve never expected to hear just a few months ago.
* My interactions with females are completely transformed.
It seems there is some unconscious recognition that you have more power or something. It’s hard to explain. Females are complimenting me on my looks and body.
My awareness of social situations is much better.
I can read people’s body language better. People cannot intimidate me as before. I feel that their anger just bounces off me, and I stay in a serene state.
Thank you!
