Book summary: the rudest book ever by Shwetabh Gangwar.

What you get in this post: in this post, I have covered all chapter’s lessons

So stay tuned till the end.

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Why do you have to read this book summary?

Reason:

Read only if you’re prepared to get your feelings hurt.

INSANELY PRACTICAL IDEAS TO FREE YOUR MIND FROM ALL BULLSH*T.

Benefits:

This book is an assortment of viewpoints. It’s about fuck all kinds of things.

The book’s title, harsh tone, and charged language are all intended to provoke thought.

Although the book contains a lot of preaching, the author only asks that you consider it.

Want to know how?

Favorite quote:

“If you need somebody else to tell you that you are special, then you have not done anything to earn it in your own mind.”

Let’s get started.

Chapter 1: YOU ARE A PRODUCT

The world is completely uninterested in you.

There are many people in this world, and they come in many different forms: friends, lovers, and well-wishers; emotional adhesives, neatly packaged dreams, and aspirational lollipops; saviors, fixers, and salespeople.

Many of them will take time to finish when the time comes.

take advantage of you, remove your emotional innocence from you, and upend your entire world. History teaches you that no matter who you are or what you do, whether you are wealthy, talented, brilliant, attractive, strong, or careful, it will most certainly happen.

Do you feel ready now?

Start with you, please. You are an item.

You are a product that comes with hope. Why does that matter?

 The idea is that you will eventually develop into this awesome, useful unit capable of making decisions about your own relationships, careers, environments, and economies.

The simple rule by which the world evaluates you is: the better the choices, the better the product you are.

NONE OF US ARE BORN IDIOTS.

People are fucking idiots, you may have said many times in your life.

We unknowingly choose to be idiots because we are not taught the methodologies of how to think, but nobody is born an idiot.

Without this knowledge, people unconsciously interpret what they have learned from their parents, their environment, and their emotional reactions as factual knowledge.

The purpose of a brain should be to reduce error, not to constantly deal with it.

However, you were never taught the strategies that would have equipped you to defend yourself and recognize the mistakes that lead to uncomfortable circumstances, harm, and pain.

You are left to handle everything on your own.

Now that you’re an adult, you’re on your own, dealing with the world telling you how valuable you are; adjusting your self-esteem as you process rejection from those you want; filling yourself with insecurities and ideas from comparing yourself to who knows what standards;

and finally, evoking negative emotions in response to failures, heartbreaks, and wishes being denied. Yes, you are harming yourself in that way.

You are being subjected to that, as is everyone else.

Chapter 2: YOU KNOW YOU WANT TO BE SPECIAL

To be clear, almost everyone finds the idea of being unique exciting—though to varying degrees, depending on the person.

It’s entirely typical. If you’re being honest, you’ve probably fantasized about grabbing attention in particular circumstances.

You’ve probably replayed in your head various meetings and interactions in which you are the center of attention and the master of the ideal conversation.

You’ve made up scenarios in which you are born with the blessings that you think will make you happy.

You’ve often wished that one day everyone would compliment you on your amazingness and treat you as such.

And you’ve daydreamed about how you want to impress, charm, and attract people so that when they first meet you, they immediately want to be your friend and lover.

And lastly, who hasn’t wished to possess millions of dollars?

You believe that being born special, hearing that you are special, being treated special, and having money are all examples of “specialness.”

Unfortunately, none of that is particularly unique.

then what is special?

The badge of realization you acquire is specialness. Your life could change as a result of this thinking, even though it may seem very straightforward to you.

Any success implies that you have developed or mastered a skill.

This means that in addition to your knowledge growth, you also developed the discipline, hard work, prioritizing, and focusing habits that will benefit you in almost every aspect of your life.

Chapter 3: WHAT REJECTIONS DO TO US

It’s normal to be rejected in life. You will experience rejection from the people you want, and you won’t always have a fair chance to compete.

People can be persuaded to make choices that are detrimental to their happiness or prosperity for a number of reasons.

The fact that it won’t always be about you is the key point. We live in a large world with a large population. Just one of them, really. Sadly, the world does not revolve around you, so you actually have very poor odds.

Rejection is normal.

The teenage years are the worst for rejections.

Even though you will experience rejection all of your life, it usually hits you the hardest in the early years when you are still a little too passionate, hopeful, and entitled. It might have happened when you were first starting out in school and a teacher who you really wanted to stand out kept passing you like you were an unwanted advertisement.

Or it might have been someone you liked, someone in a position of power, or someone with charisma. Afterward, I thought, “Am I invisible to them?”

You then begin to consider how you can change.

Three outcomes are possible: I’m going to concede defeat.

I am not noticed by the world, so I will succeed to catch their attention. I’ll show them to you. They will regret not choosing me after I demonstrate to them that I am superior to, better than, or above them all.

I’m going to declare that the world is unfair—basically, that it’s a bad place—and commit myself to point fingers, harboring hatred, and spreading negativity.

You might think the second point—Congratulations to that kid—is quite potent.

Actually not at all. Only so they can show others that they are a legitimate person, that person will succeed.

And because their main motivation is to satisfy others rather than themselves, they will likely chase success blindly while ignoring what they actually want to do.

The desire to prove something to others necessitates that these ‘others’ actually care, which they do not.

This is the fatal flaw in this motivation. Only you have a stake in how things turn out for you. And their only concern is with what will happen to them.

Chapter 4: PEOPLE ARE WEIRD

HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT PEOPLE?

You must first identify what you are dealing with in order to know how to handle it.

Your perception of that thing in your mind is formed by your understanding of it, and expectations are then formed based on that perception.

This is not particularly difficult; almost everything requires this. You have strong opinions about animals; you believe that lions and crocodiles are both dangerous.

 And your expectations of them are influenced by this perception.

You respond as though a lion or crocodile is going to attack you.

Similar to how you would perceive a wild dog differently, you would expect a domesticated dog to be friendly and playful, and you would act in accordance with those expectations.

Now the human race: What do you think of them?

You have probably witnessed two fighters beating the living daylights out of one another at a professional fighting event before hugging, congratulating, and displaying their respect for one another. After seeing that, the idea that people are worthless falls to the ground.

But you also don’t think that people are extraordinary beings. People have harmed, mistreated, wronged, judged, and deceived you.

I don’t know is the appropriate response when discussing people. You, sir or madam, are perplexed because you don’t have a consistent opinion of people in general.

Why not try weird people? One of the most amazing words that humans have created is weird. It is not entirely positive or entirely negative.

Never forget that people are fucking weird the next time you meet someone who makes a great first impression in your eyes.

No matter what they do professionally, disregard the first impression.

Recognize that we live in a world of marketing, so disregard whatever they are trying to sell, be it charm, good looks, or profundity. And keep an eye out for actual data at all times.

That will put an end to your habit of believing that anyone who makes you feel good at first is special.

Chapter 5: DO FAILURES MESS YOU UP?

HOW NOT TO BE CONFUSED ABOUT FAILURE

You develop a constant fear of failing that prevents you from participating in any challenge, opportunity, or competition that carries the same risk.

You remain in one location. You stay in your position as if you were wed to your employer.

A new environment, new people, and new tasks are all present when you change jobs, and the word “new” itself instills a strong sense of uncertainty in you.

To you, it’s a maybe: maybe I won’t succeed there, maybe I won’t perform well there, maybe I’ll need to behave differently there, maybe I’ll need to learn something new.

Additionally, the worst scenario is the main focus of all those maybes:  It will not succeed.

You persuade yourself that you are only average. Now that you only consider safe options, your side job is to frighten others into adopting your way of thinking about the world.

It’s okay to be mediocre.

You mistakenly believe that people are laughing with you when they are actually laughing at you. You only realize this after they have all moved on with their lives and you are left with few options given your history of failure.

With the understanding that failures, losses, and rejections are common, as well as a strategy that channels all those extremely potent negative emotions into something constructive, this cycle of self-harm needs to be broken.

REAL WINNERS’ PERSPECTIVES ON FAILURE

Make the idea that failures, rejections, and losses are commonplace the guiding principle for how your mind operates. Real success involves a journey.

Chapter 6: FINDING LOVE CAN BE A PAIN IN THE ASS

WHY DID THEY TURN ME DOWN?

After reading a bit, you might be wondering if this chapter is only intended for men. Nope. But it’s crucial to specifically address the lessons that rejection teaches young men.

when attempting to comprehend and ascertain the reason why women are avoiding him!

And these are the sources of this “knowledge”:

dumb age-related friends.

Older men whose knowledge is only credible because of their age.

Men who were cheated on and left for someone better provide anecdotal evidence.

Guys with a pitch about why having sex and ignoring girls is the best lifestyle because women are inherently dishonest and confused. when attempting to comprehend and ascertain the reason why women are avoiding him!

And these are the sources of this “knowledge”:

dumb age-related friends.

Older men whose knowledge is only credible because of their age.

Men who were cheated on and left for someone better provide anecdotal evidence.

Guys with a pitch about why having sex and ignoring girls is the best lifestyle because women are inherently dishonest and confused.

YOU ARE STUPID AS FUCK IN YOUR TEENAGE YEARS

What you need to know is that teenagers have underdeveloped brains, so you are essentially a bunch of dummies.

Because you believe you are an adult, you don’t realize how stupid you are. You believe that because, to the best of your knowledge, your brain is functioning normally and also because, legally, an adult is defined as a person who is eighteen years old—which is complete and utter hogwash.

You don’t really start getting smart until you’re about 25 or 26. The onset of adulthood—defined as the maturation of sensibility—begins at that point.

Chapter 7: HOW YOUR SELF DIES

parents advise us to

“Listen up kid, you’re going to meet a lot of people you’ll really like as you grow into an adult.” And because you like them, you’ll want to win their approval even more. That’s all right.

It’s normal to want to be popular with people you admire.

However, you haven’t given approval—a concept—much thought.

If you want to be intelligent, you must never forget that it is a very dangerous thing.

How does it function and when does it begin? Well, it all starts with you wanting to demonstrate your abilities to yourself.

There are however two issues with that. You are a child, which is the first issue. When you’re a kid, you look to authority figures to confirm whether or not you’re good at something.

Just like in an exam, even if you are confident that you did extremely well, you still wait for the teacher to confirm it. Simply knowing it yourself doesn’t give you any satisfaction.

In essence, you don’t know how to evaluate yourself yet, so you look to others for guidance; you rely on them rather than yourself to let you know that you’re capable and deserving.

You begin doing whatever they want because you want to show yourself that you are capable. After all, their endorsement proves your competence.

Their voice takes precedence over your own, which becomes irrelevant.

Chapter 8: SCREW HAPPINESS

YOUR GOAL IS TO BE HAPPY

Happiness is typically what you strive for in life. The demand for happiness is what drives the majority of your actions, decisions, and connections.

You don’t realize that happiness and satisfaction are not the same things. If someone simply asked you, “Do you feel satisfied with your life?” your mind would naturally look elsewhere or deeper than the source of happiness for the answer.

I might be joyful, but I’m not sure if I’m also content. People really pause when asked that question and reflect, “Hmm, never really asked me that.”

What makes you happy, then?

Making my parents happy, being kind to people, partying, smoking weed, watching great television and movies that make me think, hanging out with my friends, shopping, having sex, working out, admiring my favorite content creators, and succeeding in life are the general answers to the question of what makes me happy.

Do any of those things now make you feel satisfied?

You may find it difficult and challenging to think about this because, to be completely honest, you have never really given self-satisfaction much thought. You obviously don’t notice or pay attention to something if it isn’t on your mind.

As a result, you don’t consider yourself satisfied because happiness is the only thing on your mind. And when achieving happiness is the goal of your choices and decisions, your mind evaluates what you want to do solely in terms of achieving happiness.

Would I be content with this?

WHO CAN BE SELF-SATISFIED?

Being happy, not being content, is your main struggle in life.

Now, being satisfied with yourself does not guarantee that you will always be happy or even that you will be happy at all.

It provides a better option—a mental state known as peacefulness. You would be content with who you are. And this is where the difficulty lies because, in order to be at peace with yourself, you must first come to understand who you are.

How well do you know yourself, then? Because we are so busy honing our skills to become Mr. Savage and Ms. Flawless when we are young, the answer in many cases would be, fuck-all.

And to us, our “self” is confused, exposed, and emotionally unstable—definitely not those things. We, therefore, choose to disregard it. You can’t be something you’re not, which you don’t understand.

Chapter 9: CHOOSE SATISFACTION, NOT HAPPINESS

Self-satisfaction, however, only provides a portion of the picture; it does contain precise knowledge of what would make the ‘self’ happy.

Self-awareness is the first step toward self-satisfaction.

The problem with knowledge of this kind is that when it is not put to use, it gets stored in your theoretical mind for use when you want to appear intelligent or provide wise counsel.

Therefore, in order to fully understand oneself, one must be certain that it actually works when applied in reality.

It requires time. However, at least thought has started, which is much better than being a mindless follower. Knowing is a superpower that you can achieve by thinking.

The most powerful superpower a person can possess is their understanding of themselves.

So, do your best to get to know yourself.

Chapter 10: SCREW PLEASING PEOPLE

DO YOU DECLARE YOUR OWN WORTH?

Let’s discuss what one’s worth is. Why does that matter? It implies that you are worthwhile. Where do we find this? After all, the first thing needed for self-worth is a “self.”

When you have a self to serve, that self determines your value. When you don’t, you must rely on other people.

You experience happiness when they affirm your value.

Again, you depend on others to tell you how valuable you are, and you are content with this situation.

Let’s count the ways that it can be done:

1. By trying to win over those who, in your opinion, are awesome and capable.

THOSE WHO THINK THEY ARE ABOVE OTHERS

2. By assuming a superiority complex.

Those who assess themselves against others

3. By competing against others and succeeding.

Try to grasp this: The day you can observe a group of people vying with one another to impress someone and decide not to play along is the day you triumph in the mental conflict of life.

Chapter 11: YOU ARE A NATION

ACHIEVING INDEPENDENCE

To do this, a “self” must exist first. You will therefore need to get to know yourself. You will discover that you have particular wants, desires, and tendencies as you get to know yourself.

When you learn about all of these things, you realize you must seal them up. You have to keep this under control.

As a result, you develop self-control. Sounds fantastic, no? It is. Self-control develops guidelines and establishes a moral code that will govern your future actions and decisions.

This indicates that you are taking charge of your own identity and developing into your own person. Norms now apply to you. You adhere to moral principles, which you do not violate.

Now consider what just occurred. You kind of become your own authority the moment you claim to have morals and rules. This basically means that you are now in charge of yourself for the first time in your life. And when you can maintain this for a while and make decisions in your life while considering the laws and moral principles, you develop self-respect.

NATIONAL FORMATION

You need to begin seeing yourself in this way moving forward:

You are not just one person; you are a nation.

Nations are other people.

Your parents, siblings, and loved ones come from close countries. It’s great if you get along well with them; if not, you both suffer.

The leader of the country is “you.”

Your morals and laws serve as your guiding principles.

Chapter 12: SCREW YOUR HEROES

WHOSE HEROES ARE THESE?

Consider the people whose approval means the most to you.

These are renowned individuals who command absolute authority in your mind. These are the people you don’t want to let down.

Their every word is wisdom to you; their deeds are the right deeds, and their accomplishments and wisdom are what inspire you to follow them. You get excited when you see them.

Fuck your heroes; fuck whoever you consider to be your role model if I asked you to. Even if it is necessary for your personal development, would it make sense to you?

WHERE DID WE GET THE IMAGINATION OF HEROES?

You tend to mindlessly believe that there are heroes in this world; you label those who carry out noble deeds as “heroes.”

And if you believe someone is awesome and capable, you can call them your hero.

In actuality, the concept of a hero and villain is both very intriguing and far too straightforward. A four-year-old can understand it and become engrossed in it. Truth is rarely pure and never simple, as a very wise person once stated.

The concept is both.

Heroes don’t exist. However, there are brave acts. You put this expectation of being a hero on people.

We should strive to emulate heroic deeds in our daily lives; we should admire, support, and celebrate them.

But instead of interfering with those people’s ability to be and act like people—which is a wonderful thing they are doing and I really admire it—spare let’s them from your foolish expectations and presumptions regarding matters about which you are ignorant.

Hopefully, you won’t ever again allow other people to command you because they can make you feel powerful and knowledgeable. Keep your national authority to yourself.

Chapter 13: ADMIRE, NEVER FOLLOW

WHO DO YOU FOLLOW WHO ARE PERFECT?

People are your role models. This means that people have feelings and flaws just like you do, regardless of how glamorous, impressive, commanding, wealthy, celebrated, famous, or respected they may be.

Like everyone else, they too cry, complain, and moan. They experience disappointments and struggle with a variety of tasks.

They too struggle with inner demons. They also ponder the question, “What’s the point of it all?” And ponder their accomplishments.

They make mistakes and regret things they should have done differently, too. After all, aren’t they just humans?

They are either advertised to you as perfect beings by themselves, what is written about them, and those who follow them, or you imagine them to be perfect beings.

All of them had a number of flaws. And you should never have the notion that you should imitate them or anyone else by saying “follow” because doing so implies a desire to become like them.

And no matter how much you might want to, you cannot transform into them.

That is not how it operates. You should get in touch with and work on who you are because that is who you will always be.

Chapter 14: THE PIECES OF SHIT ONLINE

Basically, there are a lot of jerks on the internet right now who prey on your interests, naiveté, and vulnerabilities to win you over as their followers. Let’s take a broader look at the people we frequently follow.

We would divide them into two categories: those with more entertainment and those with less impact on people.

those that are both highly entertaining and impactful.

those with a significant impact, entertainment, and education.

those who are perfect and have a big impact.

It’s important to distinguish between those who are pieces of sh*t and those who aren’t; not all of these are sh*t.

THE INFLUENCERS YOU CAN NOT GIVE A SHIT ABOUT

1. Those who have more entertainment value than impact.

You have seen their work, you are familiar with their names, but you could care less about them.

FAMOUS PEOPLE YOU GIVE A SHIT ABOUT A LOT

2. those that are both highly entertaining and high impact.

These are people about whom you say: I care about them very much.

THOSE WORTH GIVING A SHIT ABOUT

3. Those with high impact and knowledge.

These are people you love to watch but don’t follow in life.

THOSE DEFINITELY NOT WORTH GIVING A SHIT ABOUT

4. Those with high impact and perfection.

This is excellent advertising. PR firms essentially sell you the idea of ideal people by creating public personas and managing public perception.

Chapter 15: DON’T SUCK UP IN A RELATIONSHIP

WHEN YOU MAKE LOVE YOUR AUTHORITY

Love, in the eyes of many, is the conviction that finding happiness in someone other than yourself is possible.

That is a terrible idea right away. If only one of the two parties holds that belief, it will result in one of the two becoming the other’s servant.

If both parties hold that belief, codependence will result.

Your need for self-respect is completely suspended once you are convinced that being with this person will make you happier. Previously, your happiness index was this person, but now it is they who make you happy.

You must comprehend the source of your self-respect.

Any tendency you have that prevents you from leading a peaceful life and performing at a gold-medal level needs to be stomped out by self-control.

You develop self-respect as a result.

People become involved in unhealthy relationships for a variety of reasons. Let’s discuss them:

You believe that no one will ever be as attractive as them or as skilled in sexual activity as they are.

Nobody will ever be able to understand you as they do; you will never be able to love someone again.

If these are the causes of your unhappy relationship, then you need to hear some truths. First, stop trying to predict the future; second, these assumptions are greatly exaggerated.

You need to be quiet unless you’re seventy years old and have a ton of life experience.

Everyone in a relationship believes their significant other is unique.

The term “special” would be meaningless if everyone in the world was exceptional.

They are not unique; you are making them that way because of your limited life experiences. You are making a fucking assumption. There are several billion of them.

He or she is not alone. However, you most definitely need to look for your “self” first.

Then you can begin to comprehend this.

Chapter 16: LEARNING HOW TO THINK

In essence, not knowing what to think is “how to think.” You’re all set. That’s all there is to it. Actually, no; after all, if you understood it, it really is that easy.

The issue is that a straightforward concept has been overcomplicated.

The way we begin to see it is that those who have learned “how to think” are endowed with greater intelligence, knowledge, and comprehension of how the world functions.

They have a better mind than you do, know more than you do, and have better thoughts than you do.

Then you start to ask yourself, “How can I learn to think as they do? In your mind, it develops into a superpower, and these people evolve into higher forms of life. Realizing it turns into fantasy.

HOW YOU ARE THINKING RIGHT NOW

Your current way of thinking is entirely a result of how you were raised.

When this changed into your way of thinking, information came from three places:

from your parents, friends, and other trustworthy sources.

from movies, television shows, and people you watch online.

based on your individual sentiments and experiences.

You didn’t learn to be skeptical, to ask questions, or to form your own opinions. Your strategy changed to relying on and accepting information packets.

And when you accept them, you feel satisfied, which eliminates the need for further consideration.

Instead of thinking it through yourself, you rely on packets of information.

You are looking for some kind of enchanted knowledge that will instantly solve your issue as well as a guide or an explanation of what you need to do.

THE REALITY OF INTELLIGENCE

Therefore, in theory, thinking differently calls for just two easy steps:

finding a fresh perspective on something that you hadn’t considered before

You would have to disregard what you would typically think of that thing because it is a new way of looking at it.

For instance, the majority of news media organizations in the era in which we live dictate to us what to think, feel, and say. They don’t give anyone any room to form their own opinions about it.

This is instructing people on “what to think.”

Chapter 17: A FEW SIMPLE THINGS TO NEVER FORGET

TEACH YOURSELF TO SEE BULLSHIT A MILE AWAY

That should be your aim; there are people who can spot bullshit of any kind from a mile away.

This implies that you can distinguish between fact and fiction when watching the news or when you are being sold something.

YOU SHOULD FIX YOUR OWN FUCKING PROBLEMS.

This does not imply that you should address every issue at once.

This implies that you must find solutions to your problems because you must adopt the attitude that any issue, regardless of its importance, size, current or potential future occurrence, or whether it is a minor or major problem, must be resolved right away.

Instead of being the last resort, problem-solving should be a habit.

You need to solve every single problem because the more you solve, the more you’ll learn about yourself.

things to keep in mind.

It’s okay to experience pain, but never compare yourself to others.

Thank you for your time.