February 2021 - Thinkdeeeep

You don't even consider how the bad habit is destroying you. How many of your valuable possessions are being stolen? You will understand how dangerous it is and that it is spoiling such things if you read this page in its entirety. I have no doubt that you will be attentive if you read this all the way through. And you'll learn a lot of new things that you wouldn't have considered before. Without skipping a single word, you must read the entire document.The drawback of pornography. Negative impact Source of the dataIn his book, Patrick Carnes Some of the losses cited by sex addicts in the 1991 film Don't Call It Love include: Loss of a spouse or partner (40%) Significant issues with relationships or marriage (70%) Career opportunities lost (27%). Unwanted conceptions (40%) Miscarriages (36%) Obsession with suicide (72%) Attempts at suicide (17%) AIDS and venereal disease exposure (68%) Legal dangers range from harassment offenses to rape (58%) Reduced ability to love. Anger toward the spouse and kids has grown. relationships with God and others are difficult.Discord in the marriage. sexual intimacy deficit. a low opinion of a spouse.A lack of assuranceResentment, anxiety, and guiltPoor work performanceYou might now argue that there aren't actually five points, but there is one very crucial thing you should be aware of.The first effect that you noticed as being particularly relevant to your situation and harmful to both you and your family is a diminished capacity for love. Additionally, it limits your ability to those you value the most. "I think the diminished capacity to love is the cause of the increased resentment toward those we love most or should love most, and the difficulties in relationships with them and with God. In my opinion, watching porn is also abhorrent in the eyes of the Creator, so doing so makes one lose "His light." I believe He is the source of love, so it makes sense that when one indulges in a viewing habit, their love would naturally wane. In a way that surprised me a little, this not only resonated with all religious convictions but was also supported by academic studies. What was the surprise about? "In the past, we frequently believed that viewing pornography was acceptable because our parents and churches had taught us that it was improper. Naturally, having those beliefs made you feel bad for watching as a child. We believed that if we could just get past the shame of growing up in a conservative home, everything would be alright and normal for me. "I now believe that the loss of the ability to love is a natural consequence that comes to everyone who views, based on the research and the personal experiences of others. It is not just a result of growing up in a conservative society. What I'm attempting to say is that every piece of evidence I came across, including academic research, indicates that watching violence causes a viewer to lose a significant amount of his capacity for love for others. "I can't think of a viewer who didn't experience a decrease in their ability to love and feel love. I like to refer to it as viewers' ability to love "drops like a rock" based on those I've counseled. Until they have experienced a prolonged period of true abstinence and have had some of the capacity restored, viewers hardly ever recognize their limited capacity for love. "A large portion of the academic research you cited supporting this conclusion discusses the bonding that occurs between the viewer and the pornographic images and videos. This bonding prevents bonds from forming between the viewer and their spouse, prospective spouse, family members, and others. Discord in the marriage is number two. sexual intimacy deficit. a low opinion of a spouse. Marital discord, a lack of sexual intimacy, and low regard for a spouse are all related to number one, but I felt that number three was so crucial that it should stand alone. If you haven't experienced intense love for your wife in a long time, your use of pornography is the obvious cause. "I mean, it's pretty obvious now that watching pornography makes it harder for you to love your wife. However, your loved ones if you are not married. Prior to the research, it wasn't entirely clear to me. You all agreed that she was at least partially to blame. Her physical connection to you is also compromised. Your enjoyment of pornography is taking away from your enjoyment of having sex with your wife or partner (loved ones). We are drifting apart because of your alienation from her and the way you see her as just another "object." You were viewing her as an object and a means to your sexual gratification, but you weren't aware of this until you were reading the experiences and stories. It was yet another experience that others had that "rang true." "You frequently hold her partially responsible for your addiction, believing that if she were more willing to engage in sex with you, you wouldn't turn to pornography. You understand that it's a lie and that I'm the one causing strife in the marriage. I'm glad you transferred the blame from your wife and (loved ones) to you if you do this, too. "I've learned from my research, and now it's clearer to me that I've also learned from personal experience of others, that you can't deeply love your spouse or hold her in high regard when you have a viewing habit. You now realize that your addiction, not anything she is doing, is the source of the issues in your marriage and relationship. You then reflected on how recently your wife had made you feel a little "out of love." You also observe how significant her flaws appear and how, in my opinion, she has lost some of her beauty. You thought back to your "porn-free" or "life of love" period when you fell more in love with her, saw more of her positive traits than negative ones, and realized how attractive she actually is to YOU. Let me expand on number three and the emotions. "The third factor, self-hatred and lack of confidence were inspired by some 'academic, but more from a religious angle' studies I discovered online. (How quitting pornography can transform your life) These professors studied the effects of pornography while also being men and women of faith. They characterize the rise in self-hatred, rise in depression, and decline in self-assurance as inevitable effects of pornography that have an effect on the addict's entire life. "This struck home. Although you had frequently attributed these emotions to your conservative religious upbringing, you now think that they are the normal and authentic results of what you are seeing and doing. You genuinely and profoundly suffer from self-hatred and low confidence. If you can't get this addiction under control, you don't feel like you amount to very much. Additionally, you lack the confidence to undertake tasks, initiatives, volunteer work, or other activities you once did. Read a more 14 easy steps to overcome pornography addiction.(2022) Four: Shame, anxiety, depression, and numb feelings. I apologize if number four—guilt, fear, depression, and emotionlessness—seems similar to number three, but in my opinion, they were separate and distinct consequences. Perhaps the feelings of guilt, shame, and depression result in self-hatred, a lack of respect for oneself, and a lack of confidence, but because these emotions are so potent, I wanted to list them separately. "Depression, a sense of helplessness, or the guilt and shame of doing something you know is wrong can be overpowering at times. Even though you know what you're doing is wrong, you feel powerless to stop. "You used to promise yourself after every incident that it would be the last, but every time you broke that promise, your guilt, shame, and depression got worse. You stopped making the promise to yourself more recently because you didn't think you could keep it. But the depression is real, and the guilt and shame don't go away either. "In my opinion, the absence of spirituality creates a void in your life that is overflowing with guilt, shame, and depression. I also believe that you feel a lot of guilt and self-doubt because you can't let it go even though you know it's bad. "You used to believe that your religious upbringing was the source of your guilt and shame, but you now realize that they are also effects of your academic studies. You think it's morally wrong to see and do it, but even if you didn't, you'd still feel guilty and ashamed. The mere fact that you are unable to stop doing it leads to feelings of guilt and shame. You infer that I am less of a person than I thought I was because of my addiction. Read a more How quitting pornography can transform your life. "Number five: poor work performance. There was some. You used to think you could keep your addiction to pornography separate from your professional life, but the numerous stories you read made you believe that performing poorly at work is a normal side effect of viewing and engaging in it. It's very real, though probably related to a diminished capacity for meaningful relationships and a lack of self-confidence. The amount of time you spend watching porn and doing other activities while others are concentrating on honing their skills and actually doing work may also be a contributing factor to your subpar work performance. However, you feel that your pornography habit has impeded your progress at work. So you now realize how detrimental it is to your life. (how to make habits in a simple way click here) Thank you for your time. Be positive. Source: power over pornography book.